Have you asked yourself lately, what you need to thrive as a mother? Let me guess, you haven’t had the time?! 😉
I hear you. It’s been one of those weeks where I feel like I am struggling to keep my head above water. Struggling to be the best wife, mom, friend and entrepreneur that I know I can be. No matter how much I think I was able to accomplish in a day, I look around and realize how much more I have left to do. The list is never ending, which doesn’t help when Esti seems to need my constant attention. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being a mom (most days 😉 ) and I love running my own business, but some weeks are just really hard as I try to balance both. Most days I must remind myself, “I gave enough, I did enough, I am enough!”
Over the past 4 months as a new mom, I have learned more about myself than I have in years. From those lessons I have realized that there are days where I thrive as a mother, and days where I definitely do not. Two of the most important aspects for me to thrive are having confidence and community.
Mom guilt is a constant voice that many can relate to. That guilt I feel when I am away from my family, knowing that they need me and want me there. The constant struggle between pushing forward my passions while missing out on time with my baby.
Having confidence means that I can trust myself to know when I need a healthy break away and can do this without feeling guilty about it. They say, “when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” This statement couldn’t ring more true for me. Over the past 4 months I have clearly realized that I need certain things in my life so that I can be a better mom to Esti. When I feel fulfilled and have a happy heart, I have a better attitude, a better temperament, more patience and love flows so much more freely. This means that I need time away from her to do what I need to do. When I feel that I have been productive in my day, crossed things off my to-do list and felt like I have made an impact in others lives, I have nourished my soul and can reflect that positivity outward onto the ones I love the most. Keeping that in mind helps me to push those negative ‘mom guilt’ feeling out of the way and focus on the fact that when I feel good, so do the ones around me.
I also rely on my community to help me thrive. I am truly blessed to work in an industry that has allowed me the opportunity to meet and connect with so many amazing women, many of whom are mothers. It is rare for a day to go by where I don’t have a conversation with a customer at the studio or connect with a follower on IG or email over their experience in motherhood. It has lead me to have a very open attitude about what being a mother means and that there is no one recipe for raising a child. My community has offered such amazing support since I found out I was pregnant and continues to do so as I navigate my new world as a mother. Having that support to lighten the heaviest of days and build my confidence is essential in allowing me to thrive in my new role.
So, is it time to start asking yourself what you need to thrive?
I am delighted to be part of Thriving Moms, an intimate evening for mothers who want to ignite their dreams and reclaim their sense of self. This event runs Wednesday, April 1, 2015 at 6:30 pm at Creekside Community Centre, in Olympic Village. Attendees will get a chance to mingle and connect with other like-minded moms and enjoy a light meal while hearing from a fantastic lineup of inspirational speakers. The evening is complete with delectable desserts and authentic table discussions. It’s a night not to be missed. You can purchase tickets here or enter for your chance to WIN a set of tickets through the Rafflecopter contest below.
Good luck and I hope to see you at the event!
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