What Being A Thriving Mom Means To Me

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Have you asked yourself lately, what you need to thrive as a mother? Let me guess, you haven’t had the time?! 😉

I hear you. It’s been one of those weeks where I feel like I am struggling to keep my head above water. Struggling to be the best wife, mom, friend and entrepreneur that I know I can be.  No matter how much I think I was able to accomplish in a day, I look around and realize how much more I have left to do. The  list is never ending, which doesn’t help when Esti seems to need my constant attention. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being a mom (most days 😉 ) and I love running my own business, but some weeks are just really hard as I try to balance both. Most days I must remind myself, “I gave enough, I did enough, I am enough!”

Over the past 4 months as a new mom, I have learned more about myself than I have in years.  From those lessons I have realized that there are days where I thrive as a mother, and days where I definitely do not.  Two of the most important aspects for me to thrive are having confidence and community.

Mom guilt is a constant voice that many can relate to. That guilt I feel when I am away from my family, knowing that they need me and want me there. The constant struggle between pushing forward my passions while missing out on time with my baby.

Having confidence means that I can trust myself to know when I need a healthy break away and can do this without feeling guilty about it.  They say, “when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”  This statement couldn’t ring more true for me. Over the past 4 months I have clearly realized that I need certain things in my life so that I can be a better mom to Esti. When I feel fulfilled and have a happy heart, I have a better attitude, a better temperament, more patience and love flows so much more freely. This means that I need time away from her to do what I need to do. When I feel that I have been productive in my day, crossed things off my to-do list and felt like I have made an impact in others lives, I have nourished my soul and can reflect that positivity outward onto the ones I love the most. Keeping that in mind helps me to push those negative ‘mom guilt’ feeling out of  the way and focus on the fact that when I feel good, so do the ones around me.

I also rely on my community to help me thrive.  I am truly blessed to work in an industry that has allowed me the opportunity to meet and connect with so many amazing women, many of whom are mothers. It is rare for a day to go by where I don’t have a conversation with a customer at the studio or connect with a follower on IG or email over their experience in motherhood. It has lead me to have a very open attitude about what being a mother means and that there is no one recipe for raising a child. My community has offered such amazing support since I found out I was pregnant and continues to do so as I navigate my new world as a mother. Having that support to lighten the heaviest of days and build my confidence is essential in allowing me to thrive in my new role.

So, is it time to start asking yourself what you need to thrive?

I am delighted to be part of  Thriving Moms, an intimate evening for mothers who want to ignite their dreams and reclaim their sense of self. This event runs Wednesday, April 1, 2015 at 6:30 pm at Creekside Community Centre, in Olympic Village. Attendees will get a chance to mingle and connect with other like-­minded moms and enjoy a light meal while hearing from a fantastic line­up of inspirational speakers. The evening is complete with delectable desserts and authentic table discussions. It’s a night not to be missed.  You can purchase tickets here or enter for your chance to WIN a set of tickets through the Rafflecopter contest below.

Good luck and I hope to see you at the event!

JEN

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6 Comments
  • Taslim Jaffer
    March 4, 2015

    Confidence and community – love those two words! Looking forward to meeting you at Thriving Moms! And congrats on your new baby!

    • Jennifer
      March 14, 2015

      Hi Taslim! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post! I really look forward to connecting with you at the event!

  • Julia Kristina Counselling
    March 13, 2015

    Jen, thank you so much for saying all this. I really resonated with what you wrote here. I’m a mama to a special little 22 month old girl and am expecting my second in 10 days.

    I too love both love and adore my career and love and adore being a mama. And totally agree with you about there often not being enough hours in the day to feel like I’m doing a good enough job at both!

    Something that has really helped me combat the “mom guilt” is identifying in myself that I am a better mom part of myself when I am also nurturing the business and career part of myself.

    I love going to work AND I love hustling home as quick as I can after work to see the light of my life.

    Thanks again for sharing, and I’m hoping to come to this event, but not sure if it might be too ambitious with a week or so old baby in tow ;0)

    ~Julia Kristina

    • Jennifer
      March 14, 2015

      Julia,

      Thank you so much for leaving such a thoughtful comment. I am so excited for you and your new family! I couldn’t agree more. I had my MIL watch Esti last Wednesday while I spent the day at the office. It felt so amazing to be so productive, and then come home to be with my baby! Wishing you all the best in the last few days of your pregnancy. I would love to see you at the event, but I will totally understand if you don’t make it!! XO

  • Heather Sparrow
    March 19, 2015

    I write this in my living room as my little ones are playing around me. It’s 9 o’clock and way past their bed time. This week has been a little different for them. Mom and Dad have a cold and one of my twins has gone to visit my family in Saskatchewan.
    I have 3 littles. Three year old Boy and one year old twins.

    The hardest part about becoming a mom was feeling like I was losing myself. I loved becoming a mother and I loved becoming a wife but I felt like I had to leave “Heather” behind in order to be a ‘good’ mom or a ‘great’ wife.

    It wasn’t until I went back to school full time this fall that I really felt like I was THRIVING! I was on top of my school work, my house work and connecting with my husband and children. One part I forgot about was my health. I was busy. I didn’t take the time I needed too for my health and wellness.
    Thats what I need to be a thriving mom. Wellness within my body and spirit, connection with my husband and children, and working on my self through learning or honing in on a hobby (I like sewing!)
    Overcoming the mommy guilt of I have to be present all the time was hard, but I believe its necessary for mommy’s mental health 😉
    -cheers

    • Jennifer
      March 19, 2015

      Hi Heather!
      What a thoughtful message! Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your life with me! I am so happy that you have clearly identified what you need to thrive. Sometimes that is the hardest part. Wishing you so much success with school and thriving as a mother and as HEATHER!! XO

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